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Choosing the Correct Mate (Mental Note)

Jan 5, 2021

When it comes to choosing the correct mate we often don’t put in the work to see the person for who they truly are, and instead, look through rose-colored glasses.  We can sometimes choose to ignore red flags or things that concern us, or we think that the red flags will go away after we get married or that we can change them.  But these are dangerous assumptions to make and get us in trouble later on.

We all have experienced some level of trauma, from moderate to severe, and that trauma can cause us to operate from a place of denial.  When we do this we make situations sound better than they are and deny what is truly going on.  We have to remember that potential mates will show up as a representative of themselves and only show the best parts.  This is why it’s important to really look closely and objectively when evaluating someone as a possible mate.

Finally, we wrap up today’s episode with putting yourself first, and why it is so vital that you make yourself a priority.  It is easy to feel guilty for doing this, but there are many reasons why we need to stop and ask ourselves what we want, and what we need.

 

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Topics Discussed:

  • How trauma affects our decision process.
  • Why you need to put yourself first.
  • Taking your time when choosing a mate.
  • Acknowledging red flags.

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